Being a SAHM is really not easy but it isn't that difficult at all. You'll have to organised your time and also drill your kiddos into their daily routine and "get-over" with their monkey business. It has been almost 6 months since I've left my precious job in one of the top 10 international school in Singapore. I know! I know! Why don't I wait for paid 4 months maternity leave? It was tempting but there were many other factors going on.
My Abang needs to go to school. My baby girl is growing everyday and really needs her mummy. As for the new baby, he needs his mummy to get plenty of rest, put her legs up and also to get her home-economics organised before he arrives. It is also to lessen Mr Hubster's headache (and worry) of the dynamics of our home affairs. It was the right time to leave and I've no regrets. Though my old boss and colleagues kept emphasizing that I left a bigger than huge hole in the department, they were very understanding and knows that the family needs me. But they never failed to remind me that I was badly missed. Yikes!!! Oh well, I am sure the library could find a suitable replacement for me and they have found one. Also, I had left a pretty good and highly trained team. *Ego Alert!* I did say that it was the right time to leave, didn't I? It was almost the end of 2015 and I just had to decide whether to stay with my in-laws or our own home. Suddenly there were so many factors involved. The need to cut down on certain expenses, the hunt for a new PCF, the children routines, space for the whole family, children schooling, my maternity downtime, recovery and many more. But alhamdullillah, Mr Hubster and I managed to tackle it slowly. It is not like checking off tasks from the to-do list. It is more is a work in progress. After almost 6 months, Abang has settled into a desirable routine - hassle and tears free. He has managed to settle into his new kindergarten without a meltdown. I also learned to understand him more and be a better mum - not a screaming one. On another note, I screamed less now. As for my baby girl, she is with my mum on weekdays. She is our weekend baby but that will have to change when the new baby arrives. I also managed to get her into a playgroup. She starts in February. Our family will be together by March - hopefully. I guess time is all I need to tackle the daily challenges of being a SAHM. September and October 2015 was a period of adjustment. November and December was the time to bond with the children and we had a great time. The new month of January is for me to set down some firm routine with Abang in terms of settling into his new school. February will be another month of challenges with the new baby and another set of new routines with my baby girl. So come what may. I just need to have the patience and a calm mind to tackle my daily home affairs. So is being a SAHM a failure or a success? I am convinced that it is unfair and also not appropriate to grade a SAHM. Different mum has different set of challenges and home affairs. It is not just about cooking, cleaning and ironing. It is about the bigger picture. It is about being able to keep your family together and you being happy to always be there with them. Yes, I do sometimes missed cleaning the floors. Yes, I do only have time to shower only at the end of the day (well, sometimes). Yes, there were times that I do so much but gets nothing done. I do complain to myself sometimes. And hey, I am just human. I am tired. I am pregnant. I also dreaming of having a full-body spa. And I have no regrets being a mum - a happy and contented SAHM. PS: The next couple of months will be busy, busy, busy! I will try to find the time to blog. I miss writing - more like ranting. Hmmm... lets put it as sharing instead.
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